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2010-5-30 05:56
Dear Economist:
I have been divorced since 2007 and decided to start dating three months ago. I am not terribly shy of men, but I am very insecure about me. I recently met an artist whom I find extremely HOT! I am curious to know how much information about myself I should divulge to him. I have made some bad decisions in my 42 years. I am stable now, but fear some of these things may affect his view of me. What would be the benefit of opening up to him before we hit a home run? Sincerely yours, Seeking Dear Seeking, It seems to me that this is all about switching costs, a concept formalised by Paul Klemperer, an economist at Oxford University. If breaking off this relationship will be painful for you but easy for him, you had best get the skeletons out of the closet immediately and hope he doesn't run a mile. It would be worse to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. If, on the other hand, your own switching costs are low, there is every reason to keep your mouth shut. Enjoy a few “home runs”, and if he later discovers that you are a former prostitute, a recovering alcoholic or a fan of Boyzone, at least you had your fun while you could. The case for discretion is even stronger if your new beau has his own switching costs. In this case, once he has committed to the relationship he may find himself stuck with you even if he later learns the stark truth. Keep your secrets to yourself, give him a taste of what's on offer, and wait until he's hooked. Come to think of it – my own wife has confessed to a few former indiscretions recently that might have given me pause for thought earlier in the relationship. I am reasonably confident that she was never a call girl. But when it comes to Boyzone, I wish I could be that sure. 亲爱的经济学家：
我是在2007年离婚的，3个月前，我决定开始约会。我对男人并不非常害羞，但对自己却十分缺乏信心。最近，我邂逅了一位艺术家，发现他特别性感。我很想知道应该向他透露多少有关自己的信息。我在自己42年的人生中，做过一些糟糕的决定。虽然眼下我已稳定下来，但我担心，我过去做过的某些事可能会影响他对我的看法。在我们确立关系之前，与他坦诚相见有什么好处吗？ 谨致问候， 寻觅者 亲爱的寻觅者： 在我看来，这纯粹是一个关于“转移成本”(Switching Cost)的问题。转移成本是由牛津大学(Oxford University)经济学家保罗•克伦佩雷尔(Paul Klemperer)确立的概念。如果中断这一关系对你而言很痛苦，而对他来说很轻松，那么你最好立刻自爆家丑，希望他不会离你而去。爱过却失去比完全没有爱过更加糟糕。 另一方面，如果你自己的转移成本很低，那你完全有理由保持沉默。先享受些“激情时刻”，即使后来他发现你是一个正在戒除酒瘾的酒鬼、一个男孩地带(Boyzone)的粉丝、或是曾经作过妓女，最起码你在可以纵情之时享受到了乐趣。 如果你的新情郎有他自己的转移成本，那么采取这种谨慎行事的做法甚至有着更加充分的理由。在这种情况下，一旦他投入到这一关系中，即便后来真相大白，他可能也会发现自己已离不开你了。守口如瓶吧，给他一些甜头，直至他沉迷其中。 我想起来了，我妻子最近也供认以前曾有过一些轻率的行为——在我们恋爱的早期，这可能会让我停下来想一想。我有理由相信，她从未作过应召女郎。但说到男孩地带，我希望自己也可以那么肯定。 译者/君悦 |